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Monday, June 20, 2016

So you want to date a shifter?

So you want to date a shifter?


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My name is Luna Lupine and I'm an advice columnist for the Shifter Times.



I advise werewolves and shifters on anything from dating to fashionable easy wear with shifting in mind. I'm a wolf(see my photo below)  shifter, but I help with all shifter dating issues.





I was invited by the fabulous Eva Gordon to advise you on the ins and out of having a relationship with a shifter. I am of the lycan persuasion and in a relationship with a bear shifter. My pack refuses to give their blessing, but hey, shift happens.



 Today I will give a bit of advice and answer questions for all you humans who want to date a werewolf? Or any other shifter. Author Eva Gordon's characters have had to confront the problem with dating a werewolf and so my emphasis will be on dating werewolves. But I'm open to any shifter questions. Some of you want a big cuddly bear, others may want a steamy hot relationship with a dragon, tiger, lion, hawk, gargoyle, or even in Bayla’s case) Hand of Miriam), a golem.

Let's start with how can you tell if your boyfriend/girlfriend is a werewolf. Winks. Keep in mind, this will depend on the author's universe. Using he pronoun because I'm lazy. Answer each.

1. When you go out to eat he always orders a steak (medium rare). Avoids the salad, but seem to enjoy
berries.
2. He is anxious to leave before the full moon rises.
3. He growls when other men check you out.
4. Shaves often.
5. You often see a hint of fangs and feral like eyes.
6. He can see in total darkness.
7. Likes to stick his head out of the car window while you drive.
8. When you come home from work you find thick dog fur on your furniture, but you don't own a dog.
9. Loves going on long walks.
10. Postpones introducing you to his family.
11. When approaching his home, you hear howling.
12. Prefers wooden chopsticks over using silverware.
13. Never goes out on a full moon.
14. Has an uncanny ability to smell and hear things you don't.
15. He stalks you, or at least knows where you've been.
16. Your cat runs and hides when he comes over.
17. Tells you what full lips you have, the better to kiss you, what a nice round ass you have, the better to spank you...and on and on.
18. Hottest guy/girl you have ever dated. Muscular toned body as if he works out in the gym 24/7
19. During the heat of making love, he always says, MINE.
20. After having sex with him, he's pretty much ruined you for normal men.

If you have answered yes to at least five of these comments/questions you better get a place with a bigger yard. And please, seek my advice.

Dating a werewolf can have complications, but don't worry, finding out your boy friend is a big bad wolf is not always a bad thing. No need to run out and buy silver bullets, and adorn your door with garlic. Here are some examples.

72 comments:

Angie Adams said...

Should I wear clothes that are easily removed?

Eva Gordon said...

Yes, especially if you happen to be a shifter. If you are human, you can take your time removing your clothes.

Tilya Petrus said...

What are the biggest dangers in dating a shifter?

Lori said...

This is most helpful, sounds a lot like my guy.

Neesie said...

Are some species of shifters easier to get along with than other?

Christy said...

Being that shifter senses are so much stronger what perfume or any should I wear?

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Neesie,
It depends on what species you prefer. For example wolf shifters are very possessive and if alpha status a bit bossy so it depends if you can tolerate that or show him or her you won't be so submissive. Bears get sleepy in the winter, so plan on staying in while he or she hibernates. If you are afraid of cliffs and heights, don't date a dragon. If your are allergic to cats, don't date cat shifters.

Eva Gordon said...

Good question Christy. I would not wear perfume is you are dating a mammal shifter like a wolf, tiger or bear, their noses are too sensitive, besides they like your scent. Bird shifters don't mind perfumes since they have little or no sense of smell, unless they are vultures.

Eva Gordon said...

Have fun with your guy Lori. :)

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Tilya,
The biggest danger in dating shifters would be if you revealed their secret society to humans. Most have rules about revealing their kind.

Sherry Westendorf said...

How easy would it be to meet a grizzly bear shifter? I would love to date a bear shifter.

Dragon said...

Is it necessary to be able to keep up with the pack on a run?

Sonya Killian said...

Being a shifter, would it be best to go "commando" at all times?

Bonnie Hilligoss said...

Overall, what is the best shifter to have as a mate?

Lisa Bateman said...

How am I to deal with the issue of him snoring all night?

Eva Gordon said...

Cassie Brode has left a new comment on your post "So you want to date a shifter?":

Can I shift even when it's not a full moon?

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Cassie,
Yes, in my universe (Team Greywolf and Wolf Maiden Saga), you can shift anytime.

Eva Gordon said...

Lisa, snoring is mostly a bear issue. You may need your own den. I like the sound of my bear snoring, but when I can't sleep I roll him on his side.

Eva Gordon said...

Sonya, commando is best for any shifter. The better to shift in a hurry without harm.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Bonnie, the best shifter to date depends on your preferences. I like a big bear, but author Eva Gordon prefers wolf shifters because of their mate for life devotion.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Dragon, yes it's best to keep up with the pack, but often the pack keeps a safe area for those who can't keep up.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Sherry, so you want to date a grizzly bear shifter. I meant mine in Alaska. He was a game warden while human and I saw him shift. I don't recommend going up to a bear, best to approach him if he is human. I can introduce you to a few bear men looking but you will need to move up north.

Sheri S said...

So I'm in my fifties is it to late for me to find a shifter?

Tara said...

Which shifter would be better to date a wolf or bear, or
Maybe both? Hhmm

Brooke Bumgardner said...

Should I play hard to get?

brooke811 at ymail.com

Sharon Chalk said...

I live in a city and I would imagine that most shifters prefer the country,so where would you recommend a good place in the city to find a shifter and as they would have to be in human form in the city what would be the best way to recognize one<

Tracey Parker said...

Hello, love the advice. Should I keep a first aide kit around just in case things are rough in the bedroom (claw marks, bites)? What would I need? Thanks!

AntoniaG said...

Where's the best places to meet a shifter?

heather fellows said...

What is the biggest difference between shifters?

shilomek said...

Can any shifer pass on their longevity to their mate?

Jeanna Massman said...

When I was working on my graduate degree, I wrote my thesis on animal stereotypes in children's literature. Do you find yourself using stereotypical characteristics with your shifters or do you purposely go against common conceptions of the animals?

Kellya610 said...

I'd rather date a wolf and in my world a shifter can shift anytime he pleases, also I'd invest in a lot of clothing since they'll probably be torn off when he gets frisky ;)

Debs M said...

If I want to date a werewolf, where would be the best place to live and work?

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Jeanna, what an interesting thesis. I use some stereotypes found in literature such as the over-sexed big bad wolf and the rapid to rage stereotype, but because I have degrees in Zoology and Biology (and love research) I often use real behaviors (such as social status in wolf packs), but fictionalize them to describe my shifter characters. My characters are completely science fiction. :)

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Sheri, it's never to late to date a shifter. In fact many shifters prefer older women. There are also plenty of available older attractive shifters.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Tara, I would date both bear and wolf and see which type you like better. In a urban situation it might be better to date a wolf. It can be hard to hide a bear.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Brooke, yes play hard to get. Shifters love the chase and the conquest. ;)

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Sharon, meeting a shifter in a big city might be rare but not impossible. Shifters enjoy city life as long as they can keep their kind a secret and they have quick access to a place where they can privately shift. Look for a hint of fangs and if he happens to be an alpha, look for an intense gaze. In my werewolf universe, my lycans must shift every 3-4 days.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Tracey. Yes, it doesn't hurt to have a first aide kit with a topical antibiotic just in case, as you say things get rough. You will never need stitches since no shifter will hurt his lover by biting or clawing too hard. Often shifters have healing elements in their saliva. By morning the bite marks will fade.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Antonia,
The best place to meet a shifter is near their habitat. Bears and wolves near the forests or the habitat where the natural variety lives. Raven shifters and gargoyles can be found near urban areas and dragons found near their migration routes.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Heather, the biggest difference between shifters is they exhibit behaviors seen in the type of animal they shift into. Wolves for example love socializing and bears are happy when they are by themselves or with their mate.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Shilomek,
Longevity normally is passed on to their offspring. However, dragons might be the exception since they have magical powers.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Kelly, good idea to keep plenty of clothing. I love how in some series, wolves can shift anytime and in other series only during the full moon.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Debs,
The best place to live to meet a shifter is near their habitat. Woods for bear or wolf. Gargoyles in big older cities and on occasion you can meet a bird or coyote shifter in urban areas.

Stacey Smith said...

I think it would be hot and wild to date a Werewolf.wolves seam family type's and I like that.

Eva Gordon said...

Yes, Stacey, the best kind of hot and wild.

bn100 said...

Where would you take a shifter for a July 4th celebration?

Eva Gordon said...

Hi bn100.
I would take a shifter far from the firewoks. The noise will hurt their sensitive ears. Or you can get a good pair of ear plugs from the Lycan Supply Store.

kathy valentine said...

is it alright to wear alittle perfume ? i love light scents of flowers, but io dont want my wolfie boy to be bothered.

Cyndi Lockhart said...

Am I going to have to invest in flea collars or flea shampoo?

Eva Gordon said...

Good question Cyndi. No, don't worry about fleas. Shifter blood contains enough human DNA to effect the blood and the fleas don't like the taste.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Kathy V.
A little perfume is fine, but your wolfie prefers to take in your natural aroma.

kayleen said...

I must admit even at 62 I have had so much fun reading this, all of it. After being alone 32 years I would have though I was to old . Nice to know I'm not. But who could not want a shifter to date,
dragon, bear, or wolf.

sharon webb said...

I have children and grandchildren will a shifter accept them?

Eva Gordon said...

Kayleen, you are never to old for a shifter. ; )

Jacklynn Sizemore said...

Where are so of the hottest place you and your shifter been on date?

Eva Gordon said...

Yes, Sharon, most shifters will accept children and grandchildren, especially wolf shifters.

Eva Gordon said...

Ooh, I love your question Jacklynn S. Making love under the aurora borealis or northern lights up in Alaska. Cold, but with my lover, very hot!

Jen D. said...

Do shifters get nervous on their first dates? Also, do they go through the same dating "rituals" and do the same things that normal couples do?

Racy Carr said...

Though I love a variety of shifters, wolves are my favorite. I know that wolf shifters can be very protected of their females. How often does a wolf rub against the female he looks to as his own to scent her?

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Jen D.

Shifters do get nervous like we do, although the alphas tend to be more confident than lower ranked lycans. Bear shifters tend to be shy.

Eva Gordon said...

Hi Racy, all he need do is rub her once. Her scent is forever imprinted in him. :)

Holysuns said...

Hi Eva how did you met you own shifter and if I was looking where would I start to find my own one I been having dreams about this bear .. thanks for any advice

Eva Gordon said...

Hi,
I met my wolf shifter by accident. I was on my way to my grandma's cottage in the deep forest when he introduced himself. Love at first bite.

The best place to meet bears is in the forests of North America, before winter hibernation. Check out the Bear Den Bar in Montana.

Holysuns said...

i already live in the north the Yukon territory. i guess road trip is in order..lol what should i be looking for once i get there are there signs ? thanks so much for you time

Holysuns said...

oh i have another question how did you shifter pack deal with you being human

thanks

Eva Gordon said...

Look for a very brawny hot looking male. Bear shifters are tall and muscular. He will be about 6.4. Buy him mead, they love honey. If you are his true mate, he will let you know almost immediately. Good luck.

Eva Gordon said...

It was not easy being a human within a wolf shifter pack. Mother in-law not happy since she wanted her son to mate an alpha she-wolf. Plus there are pack rules, which are often difficult to follow.

Holysuns said...

I love the idea of buying mead! what do you think would be the best month to head there now us ladies are planning a road trip


Holysuns said...

oh and how are the wolf and bear shifter different ..sorry if I am asking too many questions

Eva Gordon said...

I would try late spring when they've had a long winter sleep. Bears will be hungry for food, mead and romance.

Eva Gordon said...

Wolf shifters abide by pack rules more, but are more loyal to their mates. Bear shifters tend to prefer being alone.